Believing in Yourself Even When Life Pulls You in Every Direction

At some point, you’ll have to decide whose voice you’re going to listen to. You’re going to have to choose between listening to the world and listening to yourself. When it comes to pursuing your dreams, belief in yourself has to outweigh the doubts, noise, and expectations around you.

If you keep waiting for permission, you’ll wait forever. 

Why Risk-Taking Matters

The life you want won’t come from playing it safe. Dreams don’t unfold from safe zones. They come from risks, calculated ones that stretch you, challenge you, leave you feeling uncomfortable but alive. And then, they pull you into a future you’ve only imagined. 

People will have opinions. Obstacles will show up. You will face doubts. But if you let them decide for you, you’ll lose the very dreams you were given to pursue. 

My Wake-Up Call After Marriage

I learned this the hard way. When I got married, that first year, I poured everything into my new role as a wife. I spent a year focused almost entirely on adjusting to “us” and in the process, I neglected me.

That’s what society teaches women: wife first, mother second (because we can’t have an unhappy partner), yourself… Maybe never. But let’s be clear, this mindset exists to keep you distracted from becoming the fierce, capable person you’re meant to be. It’s designed to keep you small, only searching for fulfillment in your spouse and children. 

While that has its own beautiful calling attached to it, there’s still so much more you have to offer. 

There are people thriving in high-powered positions who are also phenomenal parents. The secret isn’t choosing one role over another, it’s finding balance and refusing to believe you must sacrifice yourself entirely to support others. Balance is possible. The catch is, balance takes belief.

Believing That You Matter Too

The shift came when I realized my dreams weren’t in competition with my marriage. They were in competition with my belief that I had to choose one or the other. The moment I stopped abandoning myself was the moment I started to thrive. It was the moment I realized that all my priorities could be approached holistically. One strengthens the others. 

And in my case, refusing to self abandon and striving to carve out space for myself, led to me showing up from a place of regenerated strength in my marriage.

Remember, balance doesn’t just happen. It takes planning, discipline, and courage. It takes the belief that your goals deserve as much weight as your roles. When you believe in yourself deeply enough, no voice, internal or external, can shake you.

When you believe in your ability to be your fully aligned self, you stop being pulled under by expectations and start building a life that reflects all of who you are.

Try This: One Risk Today

• Step 1: Write down one goal that feels “too big” or “too risky.” Something that you’ve been pushing aside because of your roles.

• Step 2: Break it into three small steps you could take this month.

• Step 3: Schedule time to do the first one this week, no excuses.

This isn’t just about achieving the goal or perfection. It’s about teaching yourself that you matter, too. It’s about proof. Proof that you can hold space for yourself, no matter what else is on your plate.

If this speaks to you, the free Pure Foundations course can help you take the next step using a practical frameworks to help you hold space for your dreams, even when life feels full. One step at a time.